Archive for January, 2013


This past Saturday I went to the bank to exchange some money for our trip.  On the way into the bank there was a man standing in the corner out on the steps of the bank.  He smiled at me and said “Well, winter has finally come!”  I responded with “Yes, it sure has”.  He looked at me and said “It’s cold out here.”

I smiled, said, “yes” and went into the bank.  While I was waiting in line I watched him.  He would walk into the foyer of the bank…sit down for a few minutes to warm up and then go back outside.  I watched the people leaving the bank and noticed that everybody was going out a different door just to avoid talking to him.

Why?  They didn’t want to feel uncomfortable or maybe give him money.  That would be my guess.

I continued to watch as I was getting closer and closer to the front of the line.  I noticed that he was wearing Nike shoes…a pretty warm jacket and a nice warm hat.  I thought to myself “this guy can’t be too far off in the financial situation if he is wearing Nikes.”

The line progressed and soon I was up close enough that I could hear people talking to the tellers.  This couple (a man and a woman) went up and they started talking to the teller about the man out on the step.  The woman was saying something about how she was at the ATM and she was nervous that he was out there…and then the guy said “people like him shouldn’t even be allowed on the steps.”


Seriously.  That’s what he said.

“People like him.”

I thought to myself “what makes this guy any better than that guy out there?”  He’s not wearing fancy clothes, didn’t look like he was driving a fancy car….and his wife didn’t have anything fancy on either.  The only thing that seperated this couple from the man out on the steps was the door to the bank.  Seriously.  The couple didn’t know the man’s background.  They didn’t know what he was going through.  Maybe his kid has cancer, maybe his wife left him and took all his money.  Maybe he had to declare bankruptcy when he lost his job.  Maybe he lost his house….maybe he’s depressed and can’t find a way out of his financial mess.  Or maybe, he was just somebody trying to get somewhere and his car  broke down and he didn’t have any money.

Who knows where that couple could be two years, 1 year or even weeks from today.  Maybe they could be in the same situation.  Maybe they could find themselves standing out on the steps hoping that somebody would be kind enough to give them money.

Did they stop and ask?  Probably not.  Did I?  Nope.  Did he make me uncomfortable too?  Sure did.  But why?  He didn’t ask me for money…not once.  Did I stop and give him some?  No……and there was no reason for it.  Something that I’m ashamed of.  I didn’t stop to ask if he needed  help…and once I was inside I pre-judged him by the clothes he was wearing.

What if that was a test and I just failed miserably?  The Bible says  in Matthew 25: 34-45:

34 “Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. 35 For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’

37 “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? 38 When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? 39 When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’

40 “The King will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.’

41 “Then he will say to those on his left, ‘Depart from me, you who are cursed, into the eternal fireprepared for the devil and his angels. 42 For I was hungry and you gave me nothing to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me nothing to drink, 43 I was a stranger and you did not invite me in, I needed clothes and you did not clothe me, I was sick and in prison and you did not look after me.’

44 “They also will answer, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry or thirsty or a stranger or needing clothes or sick or in prison, and did not help you?’

45 “He will reply, ‘Truly I tell you, whatever you did not do for one of the least of these, you did not do for me.’

I do know one thing.  I don’t want to ever think that I’m above “those people on the steps.”  I don’t know their situation.  Life hasn’t dealt me those kinds of problems (if he even had any…..he never asked me for money).  I only hope that if I was that person on the step that somebody would treat me with a little more dignity than what that man got that day.  That they wouldn’t pre-judge me like I did to him.

Let’s all be a little kinder to each other.  Maybe it will make the world a little happier.


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It’s Friday again!!!!  *Ps.  Make sure when you do casual Friday’s that you wear more than this*

Here are my favourites from this week.

1)  Having a wonderful husband who gets up with Little E and gets him ready for preschool…takes him there…works all day downstairs so I can get some sleep…and then volunteers to take Little E out for bite so I can get some sleep.

2)  A friend who sent a gift card for a restaurant while we are on vacay.  Helps us save money!  That, I like!  🙂  I also like her too…although we’ve only met once.  🙂

3)  For hugs and “feel better mommy!”

4)  For snuggles from my cats.

5)  For friends who give us left over American change….even if it’s only $12.00  Every little bit helps!

6)  For snow so my boy could go outside and play in it!

7)  For Daddy and Little E camp outs in the living room.  Means I get the whole bed for myself and they get some bonding time!

8)  For unexpected blessings.

9)  For kind words from friends when my grandmother died this week.

10)  For laughter…cause that’s the best medicine of all.  That and hugs from little boys named Little E.  🙂

What are some of your “favs” from this week?



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My Grandmother and Little E.  She loved him a lot.  RIP Nan.

My Grandmother and Little E. She loved him a lot. RIP Nan.

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A tiny word that is so powerful, is demanding, and is maybe even an attention seeker.

As a child I was told to respect others.  I was not to interrupt somebody when they were speaking as it was impolite.  I was to raise my hand in school when I needed something or knew an answer and I was to call my teachers by Mrs. or Mr. and then their last name.  Same as my Pastor.  He was either “pastor” or “Pastor Hayden”…even though his daughter and I were great friends.

However, I have grown up…and along the way have come some “bumps” in my road of life.  My parents divorced in my last year of college, right before hubby and I got married and I watched some things crumble as a result.  I lost respect along the way…a lot of it.  I had the mindset that “I will do things for myself and not rely on anybody else to do things for me.  I will fight for things my way.  I will not let anybody get in the way of me doing the things that I want to do.”  Now, mind you…I was a pretty strong willed kid growing up.  Strong willed and stubborn…so I can’t blame all this on my parent’s divorce.  However, maybe this is when I started to kick it up a notch.

Along the way in my eleven years of marriage I have not had the best respect for my hubby.  Oh it’s definitely better than it used to be…but it’s still not where I want it to be..or even where it should be.  I like to control what I can control and then get stressed out about what I can’t control.

**If you know me and are nodding your head at this…please just let me finish.  This is hard for me to admit in a public setting even though you may already know it**

Lately, I have been reading “Joyce Meyer’s book: Love out Loud.  (A devotional book)

It’s a good book….teaching me not only to love God, but to love others and even myself!  The last little bit has been about loving others and how we can’t control people.  We also need to forgive others, encourage others, and basically respect others.  Bam, Bam, Bam!  Things that I needed to hear right in a row.  So…I listened.  I’m trying harder and I think it’s working a bit.

I’m trying to be less controling on Little E and in the process I believe our relationship is growing a little bit better.  Oh we don’t have a bad relationship, don’t get me wrong.  We love each other unconditionally…but I’m trying to show him that I respect him and that sometimes it’s ok to make mistakes.  My child is high strung…he just wants my attention all the time.  I am not like this.  You could put me in a little room with a bed, a book, my computer for a day and I would be pretty content to be myself.  I used to play board games by myself…and play it so it was competitive.  (Yes…haha I know what you’re thinking).  I enjoy that time by myself but God didn’t intend for us to be by ourselves all the time.  That’s not the way He designed us.  He designed us to have relationships…to interact with others.  To respect others, to let others be who they are without controlling them.  To respect others…and in turn be respected.

So I’m trying this.  It used to be that I enjoyed Monday and Thursdays immensely because Little E went to preschool.  Don’t get me wrong..I still enjoy those days….but I also enjoy Tuesdays, Wednesdays and Friday’s now.  I am not constantly looking for when Monday or Thursday is coming and praying that Tuesday and Wednesday will go by quickly.  Today I sat down with my boy, played with him, talked to him and treated him like a person instead of something I had to get through my day.  I enjoyed the day today and at supper time I sat up and said “wow that day went by fast and I had a lot of fun!”.  I respected him, and in turn he respected me.  He didn’t need me all the time and he was the best behaved kid out of the bunch today!

I’m trying this with my husband as well.   I’m trying not to be an introvert and be selfish and just have time to myself.  Last night I sat beside him and watched tv…instead of in my chair while he sat on the couch.  I’m trying to listen more…to respect more and be more sympathetic.  I’m sure it will take time….but I’d rather it take time than have regrets later on in my life that I didn’t do it at all.

I know I have a long road ahead of me..but I know that with God’s help I can do this.  It’s not going to be easy at times…so please be patient.  I’m still a work in progress.


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What a sucky week for blogging!  I’m so sorry.  I haven’t forgotten about it, but I think I’ve just had a pretty lazy week that I haven’t bothered to blog.  So here I am to finish up a week with my Fav’s for Friday.  Promise to write more next week!!!


My Fav’s of this week are:

1)  Little E’s passport finally came!!!!

2)  A friendship that was restored.

3)   Games night is back!!!

4)  A fairly low key week for babysitting.

5)  A little bit of respect has gone a long way this week….(more on that to come next week)

6)  Sweatpants and warm blankets.

7)  Besties.

8)  A new kitten that loves to snuggle.

9)  Found Great deals for our trip to Florida

10)  Free tickets from friends!

I hope you have a wonderful weekend…and that it’s warm if you like warmth instead of cold.  🙂


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grad_capLittle E came home from preschool today and said

“Mom I graduate soon right?”

Took me a minute to realize what he was saying.  He graduates from preschool this year.

So I answered. “That’s right you do!”

He then replied: “So what do I get?  A car?”

Hahah wishful thinking kid!  🙂

Where does he come up with these things?  lol!


Blessing:  A friendship that was restored.  Biggest blessing of my day.

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I just went to check out the blog that I usually link up with for Fill in The Blank Friday’s and found out that she has decided not to do them anymore.  Makes me a little sad as I just started doing them. 😦  So now, I’ve decided that I still need to do something on Friday.  So I’ve come up with the topic: Fav. Fridays.  I’m going to share with you five of my favourite things from the week.  It’s also a nice little reminder to be positive instead of negative.  So here goes  🙂

1)  Got to talk to my bestie today….it’s been a long while!

2)  Skating party with some of Little E’s friends.  A favourite to see my boy go to bed with a smile on his face.  He’s a happy kid tonight.

3)  Our new Kitten….Ferb.  He’s so scrawny, but Little E absolutely LOVES him.

4)  Little E and I made our countdown to our Florida trip.  Only 35 days until we leave here and begin the first part of our journey.

5)  Getting a Christmas card from a long time friend…with a picture of her family inside.

How about you?  What are some of your favs from this past week?  Please share!


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I don’t usually do New Year’s resolutions but one year I had done it and then at the end of the year I found the note stuck in my Bible and it was actually cool to see that I had done some of the stuff….even though I hadn’t rememberd writing it down.  🙂


So this year I decided to make my list public.  I don’t know how well that will work…but we shall see.   So here goes.

1)  Spent QUALITY time with God….not just 5 minutes at the end of the day.  Good old quality time.  I wanted a laptop so many years ago so I could journal my prayer time (because I can type faster than write) and I think I have only used the laptop for that purpose a month out of the 10 years that I’ve owned a laptop.

2)  Spend less time on the internet and more time with my family.  This will have to be gradual for me, but I think I can do it.

3)  Be less stressed.  This is huge for me.  I am a type of person who gets stressed over the smallest of things.  So my goal is to finish the book I’m reading about managing stress and then put it into action.

4)  Exercise more.  This will help with number 3 and hopefully benefit me in the long run both emotionally and physically.

5)  Spend less and save more.  A hard one as we live on a pretty tight income but I believe we can do it.  Maybe a more appropriate point would be “be wiser with my money.”

6)  Go as far as I can on the adoption stuff so that I’m waiting for people on the other end to step in.

7)  Enjoy my family vacation in Florida.  It may be the only vacation we have for a while….so I plan on enjoying every last second of it.

8)  Complain less.  YIKES……can I do this?  I hope so.

9)  Be less grumpy. (8 & 9 go hand in hand)

10)  Be all that I can be to the people around me.  This includes being less judgemental and more open to giving.

11)  Finish something that I’ve started…..or in better words…finish a goal that I’ve been working on.  I tend to do things only till I get bored of them.  I want to finish something this year.  Accomplish something.

12)  Drink more water and less coffee.  No more than 2 cups a day!

13)  To always have my Kitchen table cleaned off at the end of the day. (This is huge as we always tend to put everything on it)

These are big resolutions.  Pray for me as I try to accomplish these.  I strive to be a better person inside and out…and these are ones that I’ve said in my head for a while….but haven’t actually done a whole lot of.  Hopefully making it public can help with that.

What’s one New Year’s resolution that you made that you really hope to keep.


Blessing: I worked out today.  🙂

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kraftdinner                                                                                       Guess we are having leftovers


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Pip Squeak

Saturday night was a sad night in my house.  Our little orange kitty got hit by a car and died.  😦  We were watching a movie that night and my other cat (Bandit) wanted to go outside…so I let him out and then I pushed Pip (my orange cat) outside as well and told her to go have fun.  It was a full moon out that night and Bandit was acting kind of strange.  Thirty minutes later and we are putting Little E to bed when I hear a knock on the door.  It was our next door neighbour saying that there was a cat that was hit down on the main road.  Somebody thought it was his but he went down and checked and it wasn’t…so he came over to see if ours was in the house.  Hubby went down to check and he said that it was ours.  😦


I’m an animal lover.  I can’t watch movies with animals in it.  I cried at Bambi…cried at Free Willy…I just don’t do animal movies.  Can’t.  But there was something special about Pip and that’s why I’m writing.  I’m writing to tell you about her.  If you don’t like cats or think I’m a big baby then stop….stop reading and go do something else.  This is for me to write…perhaps to hopefully feel a little better inside.

Pip was a stray kitten that followed my friend Michelle’s cat home one day.  It was raining…they both showed up on her doorstep soaking wet.  Michelle, being the animal lover that she is, brought her inside.  I saw pictures of her on facebook and talked hubby into getting her as I always wanted an orange cat.

She came to us…so tiny…sooo sooo tiny, on Little E’s third birthday. She had to jump on things to get to her bowl on the bathroom sink.  When she first came to us she didn’t even know how to purr.  When I was going to get supper one night she sat on top of the garbage can and meowed and meowed and meowed….but all it sounded like was a little squeak.  I quickly named her pip squeak and the name stuck.  We called her pip, or even pipper.  We loved her, she even grew on hubby who isn’t a cat person at all.  She would let you turn her upside down on her back and would stretch her arms out all the way.  She never used her claws and you could always find her in the bathroom eating.  That cat loved to eat.

When she wasn’t there she would be sleeping on top of Little E’s bunk bed.  I could always find her there….and most days she would be a stress reliever for me on a day when the kids would be driving me batty.  I would climb up there, give her a good rub, and kiss her head and tell her I loved her.  She would purr as loud as she could and just love me back.

The first day I let her outside after she was fixed she ran as fast as she could off the deck.  She was so excited to be outside…and she was a fast runner.  Just like a jack rabbit I would always say.  Everybody loved her.  The older lady beside us loved her and called her timmy.  Not sure why….but she was always excited to see her and watch Pip play with the leaves or the butterflies.  The older teenager on the other side of us found her sleeping in his car one time when he was cleaning it.  He loved her as well.  Neighbours up the road brought her home one day when a cat was picking on her.  Everybody loved her.  She was special.  We called her out little princess.

She loved the kids…especially the babies.  She would crawl up on the high chair just to give them a little nudge, or look at them when they came in their car seat.  They would smile and laugh at her.

I don’t know why she was down by the road Saturday night.  She never goes down there.  My only guess was that she was chasing Bandit (my other cat) and he went down there.

It’s hard to go in the bathroom and not see her there…or in Little E’s room.  It’s hard to let the dogs outside and not see her jumping at them when they came back up the steps.  I keep expecting for her to show up at the patio door to come in. It’s just hard.  I know that this will pass…and some may think it’s silly…but she was special to me….right from the very start.  I will always love her.

Little E is finding it hard as well….but not as hard as I am.  He says he misses her a lot…..and we went and said good bye to her yesterday.  (Hubby buried her in the backyard)  Life goes on….and I know it’s not the same as losing a human…but my heart is pretty sad right now.  So that’s why I’m writing…just to kind of deal with it.

I’ll just close with some pictures.

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